That Place Between Parenting and Grandparenting is Such a Void

As I answered the door-bell over and over on Halloween, I realized there is a huge void between parenting and grandparenting. My Facebook page filled up with darling princesses, scary zombies and strong superheroes. I was compelled to browse through old scrapbooks today of my kids in their costumes many years ago. I wistfully reminisced over my children's old photos of pumpkin carvings, huge piles of candy, and homemade costumes.
On one hand, it's nice to be free of late night homework projects and arguments over bedrooms that never seemed to get cleaned. On the other hand, my time of making childhood memories special for them is over. It's been a long time since I've celebrated a holiday without kids at home and all those charming photos of everyone's children all dressed up for trick-or-treating left me feeling a bit empty.
But rather than feel sorry for myself, I've decided to find opportunities for upcoming holidays when I know that none of our kids (or future grandkids) will be here at our house. Maybe next Halloween we'll get dressed up and go celebrate at Austin's famous 6th Street bars. Maybe we'll buy some Wicked Tickets to see the musical that tells the untold stories of the Wicked Witch of the West and Glinda the Good Witch, set to the score from Stephen Schwartz. You can get your tickets to Wicked the musical from http://www.bigticketshop.co.uk/wicked-tickets.htm. We could also go visit some local haunted houses. I suppose it's time we start doing all those things we always wanted to do, but couldn't because we had children at home.
I guess I'm still adjusting to an empty nest. For the most part, I'm okay with it. I worry about all three of my children daily and wish I could be a "fly on the wall" wherever they are, but I realize they are now adults and I have to let them live their own lives. Don't get me wrong, I'm not in a hurry to have grandchildren, but the void is there and I can feel it. Maybe I just need to borrow someone's young child for a day!


  1. Well I didn't have much of a void as I became a grandparent before all of my children left home. <3 Just wish I lived closer to all my grandchildren and great grandchildren now. Love them all so much!

  2. Yes, it's almost palpable as each of the big holidays roll around. I enjoy when the children stop by for a quick visit during the holidays; but if their busy schedules can't squeeze in a quick stop at grandmas house. It's down right sad and leaves one feeling empty.


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