11/18/11

When Your Child's Friend Dies

This has been a difficult week in our household. Last weekend someone died. Someone important to my sons. One of their bosses at Dairy Queen was found dead in his home. He was a young man in his 20s. He obviously worked out and my sons said he preferred eating health food. Talk about a shock wave! My boys seem to be okay. Strong on the surface anyway. One of my boys has experienced death a couple of times; his grandmother, his sister. My other son has experienced the loss of a pet, but never a friend. I can see pain hovering below the surface. He's decided to leave that job. It's just too painful to be there where his boss, his trainer, his coach, his friend, used to be, but is no more. As a mom, it's so hard to watch children grieve, even when your child is 17 years old. I've assured him that it's okay to cry, that God made tears to help wash away some of the pain and begin to heal. I've assured him that I understand why he left his job and that I support his decision. I could tell he'd been struggling but he didn't really want to talk about it. As a mom, that's hard too, but I know it's important to allow my boys some room to grow in this experience on their own, knowing I'm there if they need to reach out to me. Yes, it's been a difficult week. Every day, hug your child like today is their last day on earth.

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  1. I thought I understood the importance of hugging your child like today is their last day. All of my children and grandchildren live in Joplin and it was my own personal pit of despair not being able to contact them immediately.

    Alec could have died that day but he walked out of his work without a scratch. (He worked at the Walmart that got demolished.) How is the grace of God because he saw people with broken backs, people who had died, and people who had horrible injuries.

    I still get emotional thinking about that day and I don't think that will ever go away. It taught our family a lesson in a very harsh way but I know we all hang onto each other a bit tighter for it.

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  2. I'm so sorry for your son's loss of their friend. They will be in my thoughts and prayers.

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